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Cooking for a large blended family

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Cooking for a large blended family can be a daunting task. How do you remember which kids don’t like garlic and how do you double or triple that recipe?!

When my husband and I started dating, we introduced the kids on a camping trip. All weekend we cooked on an open grill at the park and slept in tents. The kids loved it! But we ran out of food! OOPS! Thank goodness the grocery store wasn’t too far and we took a little trip into town. 

Over the past few years I’ve learned how to buy for our large family and I’m learning to cook for just the 2 of us when we are alone on the rare weekend.

One tip that I have is to ask the kids their likes and dislikes. Sometimes you may forget and cook something that someone doesn’t eat. That doesn’t mean that we cook another meal here in our home, but we don’t make our kids eat something that they really dislike. They have the option of a sandwich or leftovers from another meal. That being said, if its something they have never eaten before, they are asked to try it before they are allowed to eat something that wasn’t on the menu.

Speaking of menus, have the kids help you with your menu. When everyone is eating in our home in one week, everyone gets to pick what we are having for our main meal one day. There are 7 of us and there’s a wide variety of taste buds, so the menu is fairly diverse. You can try this with your family also.

Something our family is working on now is a menu system where each person has a list of their top 10 meals. I then pull from each persons list to make my shopping list and menu for the week. It is so much easier when you have a plan in place and things written down!

Put your menu up where everyone can see! This eliminates everyone in the home asking “What’s for dinner?” And you may get some volunteers to help you cook each day.

Our large blended family has found that to stay within budget we need to make a lot of things at home that we wouldn’t have normally done. We also have found that buying in bulk is a must! We save a lot of money with a warehouse membership! Buying cases of chicken breast or 10 pounds of ground beef may seem like something that will cost a lot more than you have in your budget, but by gradually increasing our “meat budget” for buying in bulk has really saved us a lot over the course of the month.

Plant some tomatoes and easy to grow veggies to help supplement your budget. This is a great skill to learn yourself and teach your kids! Homegrown vegetables are so much more tasty than anything you can buy in a store. Want to buy organic produce, but can’t afford it for your large blended family? This is the way to save money and have amazing organic produce!

We rarely eat out in our home, especially when there’s 7 of us eating. It does a number on our budget, and I know it may yours also. If everyone in your home likes a certain restaurant entree go online and try to find a copy cat recipe and replicate it at home. We have done this with everything from pizza to chicken dishes.

Remember to involve the whole family when you are making your menu and cooking. Some of the best times in our home is when we are making homemade pizza and making silly shapes out of pizza dough. Family events don’t have to be expensive or on vacation somewhere, the most memorable things can be done right there in your home.

The Child Whisperer

TheChildWhisperer

Can you imagine living with someone who calls themselves The Child Whisperer? This person could tell what children need from you and how they interact with the world.

Well, that’s just what Carol Tuttle does with her book The Child Whisperer.

I first learned about this great book through a program that I joined called Dressing Your Truth. I cannot tell you how much I love this course and how it has changed my life for the better. I now know why I am very random, upbeat, and love the bright color schemes that I love. I also learned a lot about how to take my personal style to the next level and get away from dressing like everyone else just because I thought it may look good on me also!

Carol Tuttle uses some of the same principles from her Dressing Your Truth course for what she wrote in The Child Whisperer. She wrote this book not only for mom’s of your children, but for parents of all ages and anyone who was ever a child before (EVERYONE) to understand more about themselves.

There are 4 types of energies that people have. Carol uses numbers to represent the types.  

 

Type 1 : The Fun-Loving Child

Type 2: The Sensitive Child

Type 3: The Determined Child

Type 4: The More Serious Child

 

In our family we have all 4 types. Myself and my three kids are all Type 1 fun-loving. My stepson is a sensitive Type 2 child. My Husband is the very determined Type 3 husband. And lastly my stepdaughter is the Type 4 more serious child.

So what does this mean for the dynamics of a large family? It means that when my type 1 kids have overwhelmed my type 4 stepdaughter, we know that she needs to retreat with some of her favorite music or a book instead of getting upset with everyone that’s having a really loud, fun time. Before, there would be a lot of fighting and yelling between the kids when she was frustrated with everyone else.

We often say “How type 3,” of my husband who likes to take complete control over activities like getting the kitchen cleaned up after meals.

But what it has really done is allowed us all to be ourselves, accept ourselves and accept each other. We don’t try to change each other, or change ourselves to match what other people in our family like or act like.

My daughter and stepdaughter are great examples of this. My daughter is that little girl with curly hair that never stays where it is supposed to be and bouncy, bubbly, never sits still for very long. Her step sister who recently found out she is a different type came to realize that she was trying to mimic her stepsisters behavior and style although it doesn’t feel right for her. That’s a lot for a 10 year old to realize! She doesn’t have to try to be someone else for people to like her, she’s just fine how she is!

The Child Whisperer has created Facebook groups for each type so that you will have a support group for each type child. This is a great help to those of us who are in the groups. You can learn tips on how to handle different situations with your child or even help to dress little tykes with their type in mind. I’d love to see you there! The Dressing Your Truth course also has a forum and Facebook groups where we hang out also!

I really wish that I would have had this book when I was a kid. That way I would not have thought I needed to wear my hair like everyone else, and I would have loosened up a lot instead of trying to make sure my mom was comfortable with how I dressed and acted around others. I wanted to please her instead of being my bubbly, fun-loving self.

Did you try to act like someone else as a teenager? Try to fit in? Do you still try to do those things? Many of us live our lives trying to become something that we are not.

The Child Whisperer is a great step into learning more about yourself, your kids and even your spouse, parents and siblings.

With all things I have taken with me what I can use from Carol Tuttle’s books and her course. Not everything I agree with at all, but it did help me become the person that I am today. That person is someone who is much closer to God and her family than she was 2 years ago.

If you have read this book, or would like to know more please leave me a comment or come over to Christian Blended Family’s Facebook page and let me know what you think of The Child Whisperer.

Texting your ex?

texting your ex?

 

texting your ex?

Have you been texting your ex? If you haven’t been, maybe its time to start.

Communication between you are your child’s biological father can be very stressful for many women, especially when they have been through an abusive relationship with their estranged husband or boyfriend. But everyone tells you that you still need to keep the lines of communication open because of your children? How to you make that work?

I am a woman who has only been able to communicate with her children’s biological father through court orders, lawyers, law enforcement and judges in the past. Sometimes this lasted only weeks, but others it lasted for a year or longer. It was very stressful for my kids, myself and all that were involved. But sometimes things must be done like this to keep the tension at bay.

Today my  kids are with their dad for part of their summer break. Tomorrow happens to be a doctor’s appointment for my daughter, and the time changed! A text with the change kept everyone knowing what was going on without fighting. Yes, this would have caused an argument once upon a time ago.

Tomorrow I will text my ex to remind him, and my daughter what time I will be picking them up, if we are running late or early and then we will pick her up at his home.

Guess what else?! Because our custody agreement means that my ex needs to reimburse me for medical, I just take a picture of the reciepts and send those through text! Works so easily and we both have record that he received the receipt and any replies because we both use iPhones.

In the past we have used text records in court, and yes they were admitted as evidence. Everything has a time and date stamp, so it was very easy to verify when things were sent and received.

TIPS For Texting Your Ex:

If you think there could be a problem in the future that you need these records, make sure that you don’t delete those texts from your phone, and take a lot of screen shots and save them to print at a later date!!!

Texting your ex could cause problems with your current husband, if he is the jealous sort. So this may not be for everyone, but in our home it works very well between my ex and with my husband and his ex wife.

Communication is extremely important to keep up with your children’s school events, change of doctors appointments, or even when you are sitting in the ER and want to make sure that your child’s father knows that his son’s ankle is only sprained. Sending a simple text can cut down on some of those things that you want to avoid, like misunderstandings and arguments. They can also be a way that you can strengthen you relationship with your children’s father, so that a phone call or in person meeting isn’t as stressful.

Try making your children’s family a stronger and happier family by texting your ex those important things, while also reducing the stress level in your blended family.

 

The Laundry Book

The Laundry Book came about because one of the biggest problems we have in our home is laundry. After talking to a lot of other moms of blended families, laundry is one of your biggest problems too. Am I right?

So I sat down one day and started writing this. Then I stopped, then I started again.

Anyway, when I finished and showed it to a friend, she jumped up and got the kids working on laundry. I love that it inspired her to get things going. Isn’t that awesome?!

What will you find in The Laundry Book? See here:

The Laundry Book

  • Getting Caught Up  4
  • Make it a Habit 6
  • Getting Rid of It  9
  • Laundry Recipes 11
  • Resources 20

Getting caught up is all about what to do when you are overrun by laundry. You know like when you just get back from vacation and there are 10 loads of laundry? Or what about when you are sick and the kids are just a little too young to keep up with your laundry routine?

Make it a Habit helps you learn to make doing laundry as routine as going to the bathroom when you wake up in the morning. I know what you are thinking, how do you deal with laundry when you have more kids some days than others, well we deal with the blended family laundry issues also!

Not sure where all this extra laundry comes from? Well this chapter helps you get down to basics including a Printable List that helps you cull what you don’t need in your laundry room and closets!

I share several Laundry Recipes for DIY Detergent and Fabric softener. These are recipes that work for our large blended family of 7. They don’t only help with laundry but also with our budget!

Not sure where to get all the things listed in The Laundry Book? I have a resources section for you too!

The only way to get this book is to sign up here to get it free!

Sign up to get The Laundry Book FREE by filling out the form below!

 

When mom needs a timeout.

Ben Still

Sometimes mom needs a timeout. In blended families there’s even more stress than in the traditional home with only 2 parents and biological kids.

In the past few weeks my husband has been home from work because of an injury, my daughter broke her ankle and leg and was put to sleep to have it all set, then my step kids lost their home in a fire, and last but not least my kids paternal grandfather passed away.

As a mother, I keep a lot of my stress buried until my body decides its time to let it all come out at once. My hormones are all out of whack, along with flares of Fibromyalgia and other things that had been hiding for a while.

As a mother to a blended family, stress is multiplied certainly not divided. 

I start to notice things when its our visitation. More things get under my skin. Mostly because its something out of the normal for me. An extra voice or a few extra voices. Another set of shoes in the wrong place. Extra food to be cooked. Its always a little extra to do whether its my kids, his kids, all the kids, visitors…whatever. Step mom’s? Do you know what I mean? When my routine is broken, its a little more stress.

One kid talking over everyone else being “Captain Obvious” or shall we call them “Cathrine Obvious” and pointing out everything they see or hear. It’s funny. Until its not.

That happy kid who sings all the time. I love that they are so happy all the time. Until its the same song. Over and over.

On Sunday morning, I had laid in bed for at least 2 hours listening to an audio book while I tried to rest. Then being even more restless and finding a big huge problem with one of the social media accounts that I manage, I hopped out of bed and tried to get it fixed for my client. Nothing was working out, at all.

It was about 10:42 when I realized I needed a shower for church that started in 18 minutes. I rushed, and my husband helped and we still didn’t make it to church.

Screaming the words “I give up!” was on my lips. But I didn’t.

I put myself in time out.

I went and laid down, in bed. My husband brought me brunch in bed. I finished my audio book. I used some aromatherapy to calm my nerves. I cat napped.

Then after my hours long time out, I was okay.

 

 

Ben Still

 

The sand on the kitchen floor didn’t bother me.

The extra dishes in the sink were okay.

I just needed time to myself.

Time to calm down and know that God is in control.

Sending your kids to church, but not going yourself?

Not going to church?

This subject touches a nerve with me. Sending kids to church, but not going yourself. As a single, divorced, separated or even remarried parent.  And you are probably not going to believe the nerve it touches!

At 18 year old and pregnant, I felt  like I didn’t belong in church. No one ministered to me at all. The ladies at church did give me a baby shower, and I will forever be grateful. The problem is, I felt so ostracized from the church because of my sin of carrying a child out of wedlock.

Was it what the people in my church did? I think its more of what they didn’t do. They did however treat me just as I always had been treated. But I didn’t feel comfortable. I didn’t know the new pastor that had come to our church. I had never met him. I just didn’t go while I was pregnant. I felt bad about my own decisions and there was no one to talk to about anything. I don’t think they knew how to approach me.

 

When my first son was born, the pastor was new, only being in our church for a few weeks. He came to visit me. He actually went to the wrong room and got to pray with a mom who’s baby was born with some problems and had been sent to another hospital. God was in that pastor’s visit. He forever changed the way I saw him as a person. He was full of life, full of forgiveness, and overjoyed that I had a new healthy baby!

Just over 2 years later I brought another son into the world. I wasn’t in church all the time, but I did go from time to time. That pastor always made me feel welcome. But by then their dad and I were living together. Living in sin, with our children that were born out of wedlock. It would later be the Bible that brought me back to live with my parents, but I still felt a heavy burden on my shoulders.

 

I had 3 children out of wedlock, with the same man. When I think about it, it makes me ashamed of myself and how I lived my life.

Through the years I brought more than one man to church with me that I was dating. I taught Sunday school and directed VBS. I lead Youth events for the church. I loved it. But as a single mom of 3 kids, who still carried that burden  I felt like I didn’t get the respect that I deserved in the church. After a couple years of changing my work schedule so that I could teach and then a teenager that I taught was being nominated to one of the boards in our church and yet it had never been discussed for me to be on a board, the proverbial straw broke the camel’s back. I was angry, felt under-appreciated, and jealous., among other things. But most of all it made me not want to work in the church that I loved.

 

I was once asked to speak up for the single mother’s of our community, and present something to the board. Well I did. What I suggested was immediately shut down, no discussion. I got mad. I left and didn’t go back to many things for a while. It hurt my feelings that the pastor had felt my voice needed to be heard, and knew that I had a heart for this mission and that there was a need, yet the board didn’t respect me enough to really listen to me.

So again I was ngry, felt under-appreciated, and jealous., among other things. But then I started not coming back to events at church. It went on to me not going on Sundays and only events that involved my kids.

So yes, I send my kids to church more often that I go with my children to church. I’ve been hurt, and I know that I”m not the only single or divorced (and even remarried) parent to be hurt by the church.

Divorce, separation and being a single parent brings enough stress to the table for our churches to add to this stress.

Today we are waiting on a new pastor to come to our church in the summer. After a year of constant, and I do mean constant chaos, loss and stress in my family our current pastor and his wife are only known to make comments about how we don’t come to church, they have never called to ask if they could visit or if we would like to come visit them. I have asked them specifically for prayer about our situations, and many of my messages fell on deaf ears. Do you have any idea how disheartening this is to not have your own church praying for you?

It hurts our feelings each and every time that we hear, “We hope to see you in church on Sunday.” We want to be in church. We want to be active in church and all of its functions. My husband and I grew up being in church every time the doors open, and not only in one church, but we worked in multiple churches in our community.  Some days its as hard for us not to be with a church family as it is to be with a church family.

It has been suggested that we find a new church where we will feel more welcomed. Honestly, we love the church that we are at and the more we pray the more we are pulled toward our current church where we grew up. We don’t feel God asking us to leave, but to stick it out. So we are pushing ourselves to go a little more regular.

So next time someone says they wish the kids parents would come to church instead of just sending them, think about the hurt that has come from the church in the years that the parent struggled through being a scared and pregnant teenager, struggling with an abusive spouse, then through a devastating divorce or separation  Parents of blended families have walked the streets of hell in some situations, and only need a shoulder to lean on in hard times, and of course prayer. Be a little more considerate, sometimes sitting through a church service can be the toughest thing they’ve dealt with emotionally all week, and if you’ve ever been a single parent, that’s saying something!

Train up a child with scripture.

Child Training Bible

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

 

 

Training up a child with scripture is a daunting task for some. Especially if you are not as familiar with the Bible as you would like to be.

Several months ago I came across a great tool for parents. It helps you find the right scripture for whatever situation that you have come up with your kids.

Is your kid hanging out with the wrong friends? There’s scripture for that.

Do your kids fight among each other? There’s scripture for that too.

There is scripture for everything, but knowing where to find what you need when you need it isn’t always as simple as it sounds.

 

The Child Training Bible is here to the rescue.

I came across this kit several months ago, and after starting this new blogging venture on Christian Blended Families, I talked with the nice folks over at Child Training Bible and we set up a review and giveaway. I ordered my supplies and then this past weekend, I have it in my hand! All marked up and tabbed.

 

What you need:

 

  • 1 Child Training Bible Kit
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Order Supplies here: 

  • A Bible of your choice that is 9”x6”
  • Post-It Flags in 7 colors
  • Pens or Pencils to highlight
  • Double sided tape

 

 

Not only does this kit come with a great list of scripture to mark and flag, but it has talking points on each subject.

 

The subjects that the Child Training Bible covers:

 

  • Anger
  • Complaining
  • Defiance
  • Discouraged
  • Disobedience
  • Fear
  • Fighting
  • Gospel
  • Impatience
  • Jealousy
  • Laziness
  • Lying
  • Making Excuses
  • Not Listening
  • Wrong Friendships
  • Unforgiveness
  • Tattling
  • Stealing
  • Selfishness
  • Quarreling
  • Pride

When something comes up within your family, you pick out the subject. Today we are going to use Not Listening as a topic.

 

 

You Turn to the guide in the front of your bible and see that Not Listening is on the right side in pink.

 

You then turn to the pink tabs that correlate. There are several to chose from. You can read one verse, or several.

Here is one of the verses that we highlighted in pink:

My kid or kids and I will talk about the scripture then we will go and read on the cards that we keep tucked in the back of our CTB.

This talking points are awesome! It asks you questions and gives you something to think about and more scripture to read, then it helps you know what to do next.

 

 

So far we have talked about a few subjects this weekend using our new CTB and it has left a lasting impression on the kids, but no only the kids it has really impacted the way I have been instructing our kids.

As a blended family mom, I feel that it is even more important to teach the kids that don’t live here and may be subjected to a non-Christian life in their other home. This may not be the case in your family, and Lord knows that I hope it isn’t in any home. I know in reality that it the case remains in many of our blended families.

 

 

Arming your children with scripture for when they are away from you, the Christian parent, is a great way to help parent your child while they are not with you. When they can fall back on what they know is right from scripture, you and your kids will be greatly rewarded.

 

We are discussing ordering 2 more of these kits (I have enough supplies for these too already) to prepare a CTB for the other homes in our Christian Blended Family. Even if the parents to not use them with the kids, the kids will have them available for them to use on their own. And yes the makers of the CTB made them super simple to use for kids, as long as they can read.

If you have a CTB in both (or all) homes that your kids are in, then if they are away and have a problem pick up the phone and your CTB and call and read the Bible with your kids. This comes in handy when parenting from across many miles away.

 

 

 

Want to win a copy of your own and “Train up a child”? Enter with several easy and fast options below!!

Use Routines to De-stress your Blended Family

routines de-stress blended familes

 

Using routines to de-stress your blended family can make all of the difference in the world.

Most blended families have a set schedule for visitation, but visitation where your household just doubled in size can make everyone uncomfortable because they are not sure what’s going on. Make a plan today on how to make visitation at your home less stressful. Use these suggested routines to de-stress your blended family.

I am going to assume that your weekends start on Friday evening. In our home every other Friday our home goes from one child to four, and later on in the weekend my oldest joins the family. That is a big, big change in the amount of food we cook, laundry and dishes we need to keep clean, and showers can be a nightmare. So we have devised a routine to help us with some of the basics to keep our stress levels down to a dull roar.

Planning ahead for meals is crucial.

Normally I cook for 3 people, but we double that number plus one by the end of the weekend. My kids are getting to that age that they are bottomless pits, so planning meals for visitation weekend can get a little tricky.  I choose meals that I know everyone will eat. We rarely eat out to save money, so cooking is the only way to go.  I like to pick a pizza night at least once a month and we make an enormous amount of pizza. Leftovers are for snacks or whomever doesn’t want a sandwich the next day for lunch.  Soups can be easily doubled by adding more vegetables.

Keep healthy snacks like granola bars and a bowl of fruit that are easily acceptable. A large bowl of popcorn is a great healthy snack.  The key is to plan a menu ahead of time and do your grocery shopping before visitation begins. Make this menu planning and buying part of your before visitation routine. Shopping with extra kids can be stressful and you want to spend time with your family, not running errands.

Some days I believe that I do more dishes than laundry.

But then I look at the laundry that still needs to be done. Teach your kids that dishes must be washed after each meal. That is the only way that our family can keep up. We delegate this chore to 2 kids. One child puts away clean dishes, and one child loads the dishwasher. I normally wash all of the pots and pans by hand. If each child puts their dirty dishes in the sink or the dishwasher after their meal, this makes things go much easier. If you have a dishwasher, dishes can take as little as 15 minutes a day for a total of 7 people.

Write down who does the dishes and what they are responsible for each day or each meal. We rotate chores , but I won’t get into that now and will be showing you my chore chart soon.

 

Establish a routine for laundry.

 

Get the kids involved. In our home clothes stay in the home where they were purchased, unless other arrangements are made. It keeps it so much more simple than mixing up clothes from one home to the other and parents trying to find clothes that they know their kid is supposed to have. This is something that I started with my kids when they were younger, and it just works really well. Those special (ie. expensive) jeans from their aunt stay at our house instead of them going out in the mud at their dad’s house in them. It keeps down on confusion.

To do this effectively, the kids coming in for visitation on Friday immediately change clothes when they walk in the house. Those clothes that they wore are either folded and put away or put into the laundry that night so that they are nice and clean on Sunday for their return.

Do at least one load of clothes each day. On the weekends that we have all of the kids, its more like doing 3 loads a day to keep up with everything. Our routine normally means that the kids gather the laundry, I sort and start the laundry, and the kids flip it. I fold or hang, and the kids put away. I won’t get into which child does what, that is for another post on our chore chart system.

Towels are something that can be reused. I suggest getting each child a towel of a different color, along with washcloths in that color. Each child is responsible for hanging their towel for the next day. This cuts way down on laundry. You can wash those towels after visitation and cut down on 2 or 3 loads of laundry just in a weekend. That’s a lot!

Reminder: Make sure that the kid that is flipping your laundry turns on the dryer. You don’t need to have a load ready to go into the dryer and find soggy laundry in the dryer already. Don’t ask me how I know this, but I do know this. Asking a child to put laundry in the dryer doesn’t mean they are going to turn it on. Specify!

Make this routine work for your family. Not everything is going to go according to plan each time, so learn to roll with the punches. Involve the kids, and make it fun if possible.

 

One of the hardest things to coordinate is showers.

 

At least it is for our family. 2 girls and 3 boys along with my husband and I all need a shower daily. The plus is that my oldest normally showers at his dads and isn’t here overnight most weekends. So normally we have the girls shower at night and the boys shower in the morning or vice versa. We have kids that try to get out of their showers, or don’t wash their hair. So our rule is you must have a shower within 24 hours of the last one and you must wash your hair. With Shampoo. Each and every shower. Or Bath. Yep, you have to specify with some kids.

To do this effectively, you need a set bedtime for the kids and start at least an hour before their bedtime with showers. So write it down and discuss it with the kids well before bedtime so that they know what to expect.

 

These are just a few ways that we use routines in our home to de-stress our blended family. Do you have any routines that help de-stress your blended family?

Mercy House Kenya: Giveaway

MercyHouse

Mercy House Kenya is a Kenyan-based maternity home that rescues pregnant girls who are hopeless and often homeless. I have been following Mercy House since its conception. It’s a great ministry to those young ladies in Africa.

 

The Issue:

  • Annually, 21,000 women are hospitalized from having an illegal, unsafe abortion in Kenya
  • Abortion is a volatile topic in Kenya
  • 13,000 Kenyan girls are kicked out of school for being pregnant.
  • 25% of pregnant women in Kenya are HIV positive.
  • Every 30 minutes, a woman is raped in Kenya.
  • Mothers often force their daughters into trading sex for food in the slums.
  • More than 20,000 children are sex trafficked in Kenya.
  • 1500 woman die in childbirth every day across Africa.

The Vision:

Provide a safe place-a guarded home for ten moms and their babies.

Partner with local churches to provide:

  • Prenatal Care- vitamins, checkups, safe delivery in a private hospital.
  • Proper Nutrition- protein and regular meals.
  • Counseling- post abortion/prostitution/abuse.
  • Ministry – prayer, Biblical teaching.
  • Skills – jewelry, art, sewing.
  • A nurturing family-life environment.
  • A safe place to stay and learn and heal unbtil they graduate from the program.
  • Post-graduate program to continue to care for them after graduation.
  • A account to start small business or go to school.

The Mercy House Kenya sent a wonderful handmade tote and a t-shirt for me to review. Here’s a few of the pictures I made while having a bit of fun outside:

 

 

Both items totally surprised me in their quality. The t-shirt is so super soft, that I want to wear it constantly. The front of the shirt says “Mercy made this happen” and the back is a simple link to The Mercy House. I really really love it!

Purchase your t-shirt today by clicking here! 

 

The tote again, is amazing quality! This tote is very sturdy and with great touches of cutesy bright fabric. It has an inner pocket as you can see in the pictures above and the “Love Mercy” logo on the front is gorgeous!  I love this tote! It will certainly get a lot of use out of this big Christian blended family!

Purchase your tote by clicking here! 

 

If you would like to win one of these products, you are in luck. Enter below to win your choice of the t-shirt above or the tote bag! Isn’t that awesome! If you don’t win please go look at the other amazing items that are in the Mercy Store! There are some great handmade beaded necklaces that I’m in super love with! Perfect for the upcoming spring.


 

DIY Dry Shampoo for Brown Hair

DIY Dry Shampoo for Brown Hair

 

DIY Dry Shampoo for Brown Hair

In our blended family we have 3 preteens and 2 teens. Dry Shampoo for brown hair made from just 3 ingredients in your pantry takes care of those oily hair messes that seem to happen just before church.

The problem with the recipes that I’ve found in the past is that they are for blondes. Not dirty blonde and especially not for medium to dark brown hair that our family has produced. Buying dry shampoo in the drug store is sort of out of our price range at times. 5 kids means that we are on a very strict budget.

When my 11 year old daughter came home saying she wanted to try dry shampoo instead of washing her hair in the morning, I had a lot of questions for her. Where did you hear about this stuff? Why can’t you just wash your hair? Do you know how  much this costs?

She had heard about dry shampoo from one of her friends at school who spoke up during a sex-ed class. They were discussing puberty. How the body changes. How you get acne. And of course how you get oily hair. 4 out of 5 of our kids have had this problem from time to time. Some more often than others. Of course it normally comes to light 5 minutes before we are walking out the door for church. UGH!

While I was searching Pinterest for a DIY deodorant recipe that I had been looking for, I came across this DIY Dry Shampoo recipe. I clicked through to Vegan Beauty Review and yes, it was for brown hair. Hallelujah!

Looking through the recipe, I knew that I had all THREE ingredients on hand.

 

DIY Dry Shampoo for Brown HairDIY Dry Shampoo for Brown Hair

5 tsp Cocoa (yup, that’s chocolate)

2 tsp Cornstarch

5 drops of Essential oil, we used  Young Living Peppermint ( it smells nice with the cocoa and repels lice)

 

Basically you just mix this together really well, and I stored it in a glass spice jar.

 

This mixture worked really well for dark dirty blonde/ light brown hair. If your hair is more on the blonde side, you can use all corn starch or just add a little cocoa until you get the tint that works for you. Don’t use too much or you will look very much like you poured powder all over your hair.

Sprinkle a small amount at the root of the hair, and brush it out. That’s it. Works like a charm. The ingredients soak up the oils and your hair looks healthy and shiny.

I would love to hear if you try this out, and know what your results are. We have really enjoyed it, and there are no last minute showers before we leave for church.  Yay!